I am dating unattached for authentic, genuine experiences and honest connections with men. I am solo dating myself as well. We learn about ourselves through internal self-reflection, awareness AND in relationship. The prerequisite for learning of course is awareness. If we are asleep and just bumping into each others like numb zombies, we are simply repeating our unconscious patterns hoping for different outcomes. Living and relating intentionally, developing a relationship with myself, having new adventures, and enjoying meeting new people – as my dear friend said “People do not do this.” Or at least none of the humans in our immediate circle of influence. Life is about enjoyment, fun, and connection. I am learning. I release the fear of rejection. I am one of the “people who DO this.” I choose to live fully in the beautiful, messy, magical world, which is perfectly imperfect.

There is no partner, external circumstance, amount of money, job, friend, or physical beauty which will “make” you happy. There is nothing that exempts from the experiences of humanness. Yet, we seek external circumstances to influence our internal states. External validation is so variable. People can choose to leave your life. I release the need to spend time and energy trying to explain why they left. I release the story that the leaving means something about my worth as a human being. If I rely on external means to “make” happy, I will always be unfulfilled or “unhappy.” External circumstances are always changing. Learning to create the internal states of calm, relaxed, safe, and joy – is where the magic happens!

If you could know all the events as they would unfold in your life and these were set in stone, would you want to know?